It’s the first day of January 2019. The first day of a new year. A fresh start.
My body and brain however, have yet to catch up on this notion.
Whilst I LOVE the idea of setting new goals and challenges in order to improve my life and my family’s experience of living with me, I do find making resolutions an incredible challenge in itself.
Therefore, my new year’s resolution for the past 15 years has been not to make any…!
But this year I have GOALS!
I have my website and blog. Ideas aplenty to write about. Many health changes afoot. I so have to boot myself up the backside!
I generally live my life by the rule of being kind to, and caring for, others. This is an ongoing resolution which I have (hopefully) managed to stick by. I don’t by any means belittle or discourage anyone else’s New Year resolutions or challenges. To have goals and aims is to have a reason to live!
Why I can’t stick to them
I find that a goal that I make on the 31st December, is not one that I’m going to stick with. Altering my behaviour, or changing a trait about myself or my lifestyle in a snap decision, that I expect to stick with permanently, just isn’t going to happen. I know me, and I need preparation and planning!
The American Psychology Association wrote a paper in 2002 called” Attaining Personal Goals:
Self-Concordance Plus Implementation Intentions Equals Success”
An interesting quote from its introduction states:
‘Recent goal research points to three main reasons why making a list of personal goals is often ineffective. First, people often structure their goals poorly. They set too many goals, or they set goals that conflict with one another (Baumeister & Heatherton, 1996). Alternatively, the goals may be too ambiguous, too difficult, or set too far in the future to serve as useful behavioral (sic.) guides (Austin & Vancouver, 1996). Considerable evidence indicates that specific, proximal, and optimally challenging goals are the most likely to yield success, particularly when people have strong self- efficacy beliefs toward their goals (Bandura, 2001).’
Basically, we have to be realistic about our aims and achievements. Don’t focus on too many changes at once, set ourselves mini goals to help us achieve our greater or overall goals and try to achieve something that we have a real passion or determination for.
This year will be different
I have found a passion; sharing my experiences and ideas with others. Supporting others with their struggles and hopefully giving them helpful advice and guidance. I’m no psychologist. I’m no parenting expert. I don’t profess to know everything about physical or mental health issues.
But I do have my own experience to share. I have made mistakes and learnt by them which I can offer as potentially helpful advice on what not to do. I am a human being and mum with oodles of empathy, sympathy and honesty to share.
So onwards with 2019! I want to try and make a difference, no matter how small it may be, by helping to rid the world of the taboo and silence surrounding mental health, chronic pain and invisible illnesses!
My 2019 resolution is to raise awareness in whatever way I can and to be there for those I love and care for.
Happy New Year and may 2019 be good to you and yours!